I think when you’re used to clubbing or hanging out in bars it’s probably hard. By the time my friends had kids (I was the last one in our group) we had long graduated to home visits and playing boardgames (i.e. gotten old) with little or no drinking involved. Certainly it reduced the number of times we saw each other, but overall the relationship didn’t feel changed.
For my friends and I (not bar people), hangouts still changed when they had kids because now the choice is hang out at my place or hang out at theirs…with the kids. I have to “compete” for my friends’ attention until the youngins go to bed and then we have to be quieter as to not wake them up.
Yea, when I hang out with my friends that have kids it’s always just a constant stream of interruptions where they have to step away from whatever it is we’re doing and go deal with one of the children. Which I understand, kids take priority, but it’s definitely worse than before when we could just focus on having a good time. There’s also the fact that a lot of time they’ll invite me over and I don’t go because I’m already stressed from work and I don’t have it in me to deal with their children on top of it. If the kids weren’t there I’d have no problem going over.
I think when you’re used to clubbing or hanging out in bars it’s probably hard. By the time my friends had kids (I was the last one in our group) we had long graduated to home visits and playing boardgames (i.e. gotten old) with little or no drinking involved. Certainly it reduced the number of times we saw each other, but overall the relationship didn’t feel changed.
For my friends and I (not bar people), hangouts still changed when they had kids because now the choice is hang out at my place or hang out at theirs…with the kids. I have to “compete” for my friends’ attention until the youngins go to bed and then we have to be quieter as to not wake them up.
It’s fine, but it’s an undeniable downgrade.
Yea, when I hang out with my friends that have kids it’s always just a constant stream of interruptions where they have to step away from whatever it is we’re doing and go deal with one of the children. Which I understand, kids take priority, but it’s definitely worse than before when we could just focus on having a good time. There’s also the fact that a lot of time they’ll invite me over and I don’t go because I’m already stressed from work and I don’t have it in me to deal with their children on top of it. If the kids weren’t there I’d have no problem going over.
Yep…and then sometimes there’s tension when the kids have a meltdown and they ask their wives to help take care of it.
If I had a nickel for every time I sat on the couch by mysf for half an hour waiting for them to chill out…