• @nutsack@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    sometimes you bring on a ceo just to get some controversial thing done. they can eat the blame and then leave

    • JackbyDev
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      34 hours ago

      Yeah. I used the BFF version for a bit to try and find folks in my area to hang out with. It’s a really horrible app. When someone messages you, you have 24 hours to respond. If you don’t then the two of you get unmatched. I can understand something like unlatching after some time period without responding, but just 24 hours? Ick.

      • Billegh
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        31 hour ago

        Probably, considering that it was enough to get the company to the point that it could go public. And for the company to lose 54% of its “value” after changing it.

        • Captain Aggravated
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          11 hour ago

          So it got enough eyes on the platform to serve them ads or subscriptions or whatever their monetization strategy was…did the product ever once function as advertised?

          • Echo Dot
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            156 minutes ago

            Not really because a lot of women just used to begin the conversation with “hi” which gave you nothing to work with. Especially when they had a basically empty bio.

            So basically suffered from exactly the same problem that every other dating app suffered from which is that nobody really puts the effort in.

  • @Tiuku@sopuli.xyz
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    391 day ago

    Ohh you mean the “pay for every little thing” -feature? Dang I really liked that

  • @Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
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    1161 day ago

    There’s a big problem with the “women message first” gimmick, and it’s that they just don’t.

    If they don’t simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

    Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

    • @Ledivin@lemmy.world
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      1114 hours ago

      I loved bumble when I was on it 🤷‍♂️ much, much higher hit rate than any other app

    • Vanth
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      4421 hours ago

      you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

      So same result as when men message first.

    • @nutsack@lemmy.world
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      1101 day ago

      it would work better if it was "women swipe first’. men can look at and swipe the women who swiped them already. this solves two problems:

      1. women are not seen by anyone they don’t want to be
      2. men don’t need to spend hours swiping hundreds of women

      please give me 1 million dollars

      • Echo Dot
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        149 minutes ago

        That’s the premium feature in pretty much every dating app. You get to see who likes you but you have to pay the money to find out if anyone swiped on you at all.

        They imply that lots of people swiped on you but you don’t actually know until after you’ve given the money.

        So basically your plan is to just remove the con part which I’m all in favor of.

      • @Nindelofocho@lemmy.world
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        1318 hours ago

        Facebook dating kinda has this where you get notified if someone likes you Ironically it works better than any other dating app. The whole swipe til you both match deal is just to keep people paying and using the app for longer

        • Soulifix
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          316 hours ago

          Now if Facebook Dating would increase it’s freaking character limit for profile bios, it’d be perfect. But nooooo…

        • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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          216 hours ago

          Would be totally cool if I wasn’t completely certain that they would use that against me.

          • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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            416 hours ago

            Who wants men spending hours on the app and why? Most of these are subscription-based, not ad-supported.

            • @monotremata@lemmy.ca
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              13 hours ago

              Sure, but you’ve got to build that habit of checking the app. Gotta lure people back for more little hits of dopamine. The men aren’t going to subscribe (or at least stay subscribed) if they aren’t getting that illusion of lots of options for people to date.

              • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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                15 hours ago

                No, it’s the goal of apps that want to serve as many advertisements as humanly possible. Most dating apps don’t have any way to monetize your attention.

          • @MothmanDelorian@lemmy.world
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            720 hours ago

            Exactly, Im 50 and Im not rich or particularly good looking. If I was straight I might only see 5 or 6 women on the app that would match with me to begin with and if those didn’t become anything I’d be done with that app. It can’t work

            • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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              1116 hours ago

              Would you rather see 5 or 6 women that all expressed interest in you or a thousand women who have never and probably will never even see you? Open the app, swipe 5 or 6 times, move on with your life.

              • Lemminary
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                As someone who has spent a stupid amount of time browsing Tinder for shits & giggles, I’m not sure I wouldn’t want that. But then again I’m gay and things work way differently for us. If I swipe right, it’s very likely we match and then have a boring convo that goes nowhere. Maybe I suck at it but I never have any luck despite everything.

                • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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                  15 hours ago

                  You’re gonna have a boring convo on a chat app with a random stranger. You’re both interested in each other, just ask to meet up. Do something interesting together and the conversation will flow naturally.

            • @nutsack@lemmy.world
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              719 hours ago

              i am the most attractive sexy man in my entire giant city of 23 million people but i still have to swipe 50 girls to get 1 match and i might not even be that interested in her. better to meet girls in real life and follow them around on the tube and insert myself into their personal space 🚀

    • @Deceptichum@quokk.au
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      1181 day ago

      I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

      • Echo Dot
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        144 minutes ago

        That is definitely not it. Looking at my bio which I wrote ages ago I’m actually kind of concerned I’m slightly doxing in myself the amount of information that’s in there.

        The problem is that there is a social convention that men start the conversation, so a lot of women just aren’t very good at openings, so they say “hi” and then I’ve basically got to carry the conversation. So what’s the point in the app then? Even if they just opened with “sorry I’m not very good at this yet” it would be a start, but noooo.

    • @flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz
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      724 hours ago

      Well cultural habits are slow to change. I suspect it would take some 20 years to change the dynamics such than women are always expected to make the first move.

      Bumble was well positioned to push for that change, unfortunately earning revenue has a priority, they are are a business after all. Still their gimmick got the ball rolling, we’ll see who picks it up next.

    • @Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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      141 day ago

      Yeah I can see how women message first will tank a dating app. That fucking stupid. I get it that women get bombarded with messages from guys on dating apps. But guess what all the time I used the apps 0% was I ever messaged by a woman.

      Women don’t chase men because they don’t have too. I knew several women I help set up their dating profiles. They would get a 1000 hits, mostly guys says “hey” or the worse be :hey baby".

      How I realize just how easy and why I never had problems with dating apps. You got to give a woman more then hey and calling them baby is just cringe. Then you get the guys straight up asking for sex or nudes. Anyways point is having the app where the men can’t make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

      Hell most of them like to just scroll, none of them were interested in making the first move.

      • bravesirrbn ☑️
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        411 day ago

        You literally listed a bunch of reasons why men shouldn’t be allowed to message first

      • Soulifix
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        Because the moment a woman makes a move, then the guy just falls the hell over on themselves thinking they’ve struck jackpot, then they’ll start pouring in their long-ass list of shitty pick up lines. Just admit it, guys cannot for the life of them, treat a woman as a woman and as a human being. There is always, always some underlying goal a guy has most of the time, when it comes to finally talking with a woman who bothers giving them even 5 minutes of their time.

        And you highlighted them.

        • @teamevil@lemmy.world
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          26 hours ago

          The best way to get laid is to not try to get laid and actually interact with each other like humans

          • Lemminary
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            15 hours ago

            Very much this. I’ve had women friends who low key were dtf but I’m unfortunately a queer homosexual. One even asked me to be her sperm donor even though I don’t think I’m particularly good looking, wtf.

      • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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        having the app where the men can’t make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

        I mean, it did work though. It was one of the top dating apps for a long time.

          • magic_lobster_party
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            620 hours ago

            As a man who’s struggling with dating, Bumble has always been more effective for me than Tinder

            • @dai@lemmy.world
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              Agreed. When I was playing that game Bumble for me was a much more effective platform. Tinder is horrible, just a cesspool of low moral high ego monkeys.

              Admittedly my marriage started from a one night stand / hookup at a bar with someone visiting from 400km away, so these apps never paid off in the long term for me.

          • @GamingChairModel@lemmy.world
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            1718 hours ago

            whatsoever she was doing didn’t work why they fired her ass.

            You’re contradicting yourself, because you didn’t understand (or didn’t read) the article.

            Bumble was a platform where only women could message first. It was a leading platform for a while. This CEO changed that to be a more conventional system where men could message first. After that change, the user base dwindled and the stock tanked, as you noted.

            In other words, they were much more successful as a woman-message-first platform.

            • @Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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              118 hours ago

              I see never used Bumble, well are they changing it back? What other features does it hold? Is like all the rest now were you swipe left or right? I used OKCUPID back when you had to put thought into your profile. And the longer the better.

          • @Ulrich@feddit.org
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            Maybe you missed the headline where this was a new CEO that killed their only unique feature…or the fact that I used the past tense in the comment you replied to.

      • @jonathan@lemmy.zip
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        81 day ago

        I’m not that conventionally attractive and Bumble worked great for me in my late 30s. People on different platforms are looking for different things. Bumble had its niche and it was very successful there, even if it was not for you like the other apps we’re not for me.