• @Persen@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Yes, that’s kind off true. I don’t lie to them about having their back, I lie to them about my opinion as I try to avoid conflict. I don’t do it against my actual friends, just to people I’m forced to communicate with to function in society.

    • Flying Squid
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      34 months ago

      What is the difference between your friends and your actual friends? Because I thought we were talking about your friends and I also thought that friends are actual friends.

      • @Persen@lemmy.world
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        04 months ago

        I actually like and help some of my friends, who do respect me, but others, who act like my friends but actually just bully and gaslight me, I just use for my own benefit (usually by pretending to be fine with it). Those assholes could help you, without you having to have any obligations to them.

        • Flying Squid
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          4 months ago

          Using people for your benefit also makes you a bad friend, and a questionable person.

          It’s also a step down the road to advocating for slavery.

          Doing something really immoral to a person who mistreats you while pretending to be their friends is not the right way to deal with such situations.

          • @Persen@lemmy.world
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            4 months ago

            It’s true, but it doesn’t change the fact they are an asshole. Also slavery is a bit of an extreme portrayal.

            • Flying Squid
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              34 months ago

              “They are an asshole” is not an excuse to use or exploit a person.