• Flying Squid
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    34 months ago

    What is the difference between your friends and your actual friends? Because I thought we were talking about your friends and I also thought that friends are actual friends.

    • @Persen@lemmy.world
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      04 months ago

      I actually like and help some of my friends, who do respect me, but others, who act like my friends but actually just bully and gaslight me, I just use for my own benefit (usually by pretending to be fine with it). Those assholes could help you, without you having to have any obligations to them.

      • Flying Squid
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        4 months ago

        Using people for your benefit also makes you a bad friend, and a questionable person.

        It’s also a step down the road to advocating for slavery.

        Doing something really immoral to a person who mistreats you while pretending to be their friends is not the right way to deal with such situations.

        • @Persen@lemmy.world
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          4 months ago

          It’s true, but it doesn’t change the fact they are an asshole. Also slavery is a bit of an extreme portrayal.

          • Flying Squid
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            34 months ago

            “They are an asshole” is not an excuse to use or exploit a person.