Yes, lady. That's it... - sh.itjust.works
sh.itjust.works

I recently conmented on a meme with a little personal experience and would like to know what you fine peoples take is?

Thanks!

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  • @ASDraptor@lemmy.autism.placeEnglish
    10•4 months ago

    Allistic people have issues saying what they truly think, so they do all kinds of shit to “say without saying”. And that doesn’t work with us, but they don’t understand because, apparently, we should learn how to understand them, but they don’t want (and neither think they need) to understand us.

    So we’re trapped in a world where a good bunch of the allistics don’t care enough about us to learn how to communicate properly with us or to, at least, find a middle ground.

    I don’t think you are in the wrong, she just wasn’t able to express clearly what she thought and you weren’t able to understand her message because of the lack of clarity on her end.

    • @snooggums@midwest.socialEnglish
      3•4 months ago

      So we’re trapped in a world where a good bunch of the allistics don’t care enough about us to learn how to communicate properly with us or to, at least, find a middle ground.

      I don’t claim or even think I am autistic, but the inability for people recognize that just speaking clearly and directly would be better all around is infuriating. They seem to have some kind of reverence for people knowing all the ‘subtle clues’ that are based on what cultures someone is familiar with and based entirely on excluding others. Understanding the reasons why doesn’t make it less annoying when the same action could mean different things in the same culture in the same context depending on what is in somebody’s head.

      Social cues are annoying and inconsistent even when they are understood. Most people just don’t think about it actively and just change their behavior based on anyone correcting them without thinking about why something is ‘the norm’.