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I recently conmented on a meme with a little personal experience and would like to know what you fine peoples take is?

Thanks!

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  • @ASDraptor@lemmy.autism.placeEnglish
    2•4 months ago

    Anon explained why he didn’t consider he was being creepy and (girl) didn’t counter it and didn’t mention it again. What does that mean?

    • @WatDabney@sopuli.xyz
      6•4 months ago

      “Anon’s” opinion on whether it’s creepy or not counts for absolutely nothing.

      Again, it wasn’t a social cue and “anon” didn’t miss it - girl directly expressed her opinion and instead of accepting it, “anon” argued against it, then ignored it That’s not only creepy, but borderline abusive.

      • @Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
        2•4 months ago

        I believe the context for your query was that i missed a social que. However within context, she found it creepy i “stalked” her. To which i clarified it was not my intent to stalk or be creepy but was simply just being friendly, as i do with all my friends regardless of sex.

        • @WatDabney@sopuli.xyz
          1•4 months ago

          Yep - I figured this was just anon hoping for a different answer from a different audience.

          Again, your intent doesn’t matter and there was no social cue that you missed. The girl clearly expressed her view and you didn’t do her even the simple courtesy of believing her. That’s not what friends do. That’s what stalkers do.

          Autism as an excuse can only go so far. When you go past the point at which you simply fail to pick up on non-verbal cues to the point at which you dispute and disregard other people’s clearly stated preferences, it no longer applies. That’s not autism - it’s antisocial personality disorder. You’re not just failing to understand what other people expect, but refusing to treat them as beings with rights. You’re treating them as mere objects rightly subject to your will and your preferences.